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You don’t need them

I know it might not make sense. You are likely thinking things like:

“If I don’t give a consequence, my kids won’t learn”
“They’ll just bully their sibling”
“This sounds permissive”
“The real world has consequences, I need them too”

It’s common to have these thoughts and ideas, especially when we’ve always been shown to parent in this one way. And it’s all we have been modelled.

The truth is though: there are SO many reasons that using negative punishments and consequences (like taking things away from your kids) don’t work for sibling conflict.

And you 100% CAN teach your kids to be good to their sibling, solve their own conflict and be great humans without negative experiences.

➤Is it harder? Yes. Is it more effective and creates long term change and a solid relationship between your kids? YES!

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Sibling fights / sibling conflicts / mom of two kids / mom of three kids / mol of boys / mom of girls

Hey friend 👋🏻❤️

Let’s get acquainted, shall we?

I’m Colleen! I live in Alberta Canada with my husband and 2 kiddos. (and our bearded dragon Higo!)

I am a Mom, through and through. I love spending time with my kids (until I get overstimulated by noise and need everyone to leave me alone 😬)

I spent 7 years as a travel agent and spent 8 years after that travelling with my husband when we were dual income with no kids! I have been to Mexico at least 15 times, Belize, Jamaica, Hawaii, Brazil, Vietnam, Australia, Egypt, and Paris…to name a few 😉)

But these days I spend my vacation time in Arizona, Disneyland (obsessed!) or British Columbia.

My go-to take out order is sushi or Vietnamese.

I have never had a cup of coffee or cigarette in my life 😲 (I know).

Fun fact: I gave birth to our daughter on the kitchen floor (no, it wasn’t planned and my husband and 2 year old were the only ones home).

I am now obsessed with helping parents deal with sibling fights, discipline and misbehaviour so they can enjoy their time with their kids.

YOUR turn! Tell me your fun fact, what you’ve never done in your life, or your go-to take out order. 🥰

Is this normal?

I think a lot of parents are secretly wondering if the fighting in their house is normal sibling fights or something more.

Often parents will say to me “I mean, maybe this is normal…?” 😂

And to this I say Yes AND No

Yes 👉 Siblings fight a lot! It is very common of course. Siblings are in the perfect situation to fight. They are with each other all the time as they have massive feelings and learn about the world.

No ❌ It doesn’t have to be YOUR “normal” to deal with constant bickering, fighting, pushing each other’s buttons or getting physical.

There are LOTS of things you can do about sibling fighting so that it doesn’t just stay your normal.

Welcome to my page, 🙋‍♀️where I share tips and strategies for dealing with sibling fights.

🥳 Stay tuned as the Sibling Solution program opens back up in October and you get more support from me than ever to go through the program together!

Sibling fights / sibling conflict / mom of two kids / mom of three kids /

You don’t need to know

Truly, you don’t need to know which child is in the wrong. You dont need to know who hit who, who had the toy first, who did what.

Amazing, right?

You can help your kids deal with the fight, learn new skills and fight less over time without being the referee at all.

It’s what I teach you inside Sibling Solutions - the step by step system so you know exactly how to reduce sibling conflict - without being the referee, one less fight at a time.

‼️Comment SOLUTION to learn more and get on the Priority list to join us in October as I walk you through it all!

I got asked this question

I was at a family event and naturally people are curious about the strange job of being a parent coach.

Someone asked me “What’s the #1 pitfall a parent can avoid?”

There are LOTS!

But the first thing that came to my mind was: Control

Using too much control or demanding compliance happens so easily, to the parents with the best intentions!

We just want our kids to listen to us and behave and be good kids.

The pitfall is that most children (not all) will push back against control.

➡️ So in order to get our kids to listen to us: the answer is to get them to work WITH us. And the cool thing is that kids naturally do want to work with us.

It’s backwards to everything we ever learned about discipline really. The LESS you control, force, punish and push against your child, the MORE they will listen and cooperate.

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Mom of two kids / mom of three kids / positive discipline / positive parenting / playful parenting