Jordan Candlish

Fellas, want to know what’s better than using ChatGPT as your relationship coach?

A group of men who can give you honest feedback and advice because they’ve lived it.

In one week, I’m bringing a small group of men together inside my private men’s group to do this work.

There are 7 spots left.

Comment or DM me “BROTHERHOOD”, and I’ll send you the details.

The deeper you feel, the richer you are.

I think about feelings as a kind of currency. So much of what we chase is really about how we hope it will make us feel.

Freedom. Love. Peace. That feeling of being fully alive.

But how much of it can you actually receive if you’re always bracing against feeling anything uncomfortable?

One of the greatest gifts a woman can give a man is sometimes seeing what he needs before he can see it himself.

Not because it’s her job to manage him.

Not because he’s incapable of knowing what’s best for himself.

But because when you deeply know someone, you start to recognize when they’re drifting away from the things that make them come alive.

Sometimes he needs a weekend away with good men.

Sometimes he needs to take the trip, go on the adventure, sit in the room, read the book, hear the uncomfortable truth or spend time around people who call him into a higher standard.

And sometimes the most loving thing his woman can say is:

“You need to go do this.”

A powerful relationship isn’t built by two people constantly asking, “What are you doing for me?”

It’s built by two people who genuinely care about the growth and aliveness of the person beside them.

And there’s an important distinction here.

It’s not just about encouraging him to spend more time with “the boys.”

Who he surrounds himself with matters.

The right men challenge him, sharpen him, tell him the truth, expand what he believes is possible and remind him of the man he wants to be.

The wrong environment can pull him further away from himself.

So nurture the relationships that nourish him.

Encourage the experiences that expand him.

Send him the information you know will challenge him.

Remind him of the parts of himself you can see he’s neglecting.

And men, this goes both ways.

Know your woman deeply enough that you can recognize what her soul is asking for when she’s too caught up in life to hear it herself.

That’s partnership.

Not keeping score.

Two people paying enough attention to each other that they can occasionally see the path back to themselves before the other person does.

Lads, sometimes you’ve spent the whole day in your head and you don’t even realise you’re still there when you get home.

Your partner starts telling you about her day, and you’re already building a five-step plan to sort her life out.

I know that mode.

It can feel easier to offer a solution than admit, “Honestly, I’m a bit overwhelmed myself.”

But that’s something I’ve had to practise with Amanda. Letting her know what’s going on with me, even when I haven’t fully figured it out yet.

It gives us somewhere honest to start.

And it helps having other men you can talk this stuff through with too.

I’ve got a small group coming together next week for a 3-month journey. We’ll work on things like this: understanding yourself better, having the conversations you avoid, and showing up with more presence in your relationship.

If that sounds like something you’d want to be part of, comment or DM me “BROTHERHOOD,” and we can chat.

Fellas, want to know what’s better than using ChatGPT as your relationship coach? A group of men who can give you honest feedback and advice because they’ve lived it.

In one week, I’m bringing a small group of men together inside my private men’s group to do this work.

There are 7 spots left.

Comment or DM me “BROTHERHOOD”, and I’ll send you the details.

Do you think a marriage is more likely to last if the couples decides to not have s*x until marriage ?

You’ve done the books, the podcasts, the courses. You know the concepts but you’re still not living them.

That gap doesn’t close with more information. It closes in the body, and it closes in a room of men who won’t let you perform.

So we’re running it again. October 23 to 26, four days in Muskoka, two hours north of Toronto. Cold plunge and breath in the morning, the deep work through the middle of the day, and the fire at night, where the conversations that change men actually happen.

Somatic work to move what you’ve been carrying, real challenge to build the man, and silence for the guy who’s hungry for God but tired of spirituality as performance.

Three nights lakeside, all meals, all programming. Everything but the flight.

Ten to fifteen men, and every applicant has a conversation with our team first to make sure the room is right for you and you’re right for the room.

Applications close October 17th.

Comment or DM the word RETREAT and I’ll send you the details.