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When my dad died back in 2019, I went back to work 5 days later per bereavement policy as if my brain wasn't full of cotton balls and sadness. I thought I was hiding it well, and clearly I was not. Before long my performance became the topic of a very awkward conversation with my boss.

I have since sat on both sides of that desk. I've written employment policy around performance improvement plans, and I've been the manager who had to deliver one. Here is what I know: when a neurodivergent person hears "I need to talk to you about your performance," fight or flight takes over, and almost nothing said after that sentence actually lands.

So I wrote down what I wish someone had handed me back then. What to do in in the immediate aftermath, which is mostly breathe, make no promises, and ask for a day to reflect. What to do in the twenty-four hours after, which is write down exactly what was said and nothing extra because our brains want to catastrophize. And what to have in writing long before anyone schedules that meeting, because accommodations that live in a the brief onboarding conversation don't exist when it counts.

A PIP is hard, but it is survivable. It is a plan with a window, and you deserve to work it from a place of strength, not panic, and a heaping of grace.

If someone you love is sitting in that chair right now, please send this to them.

Link in the first comment.

NeuroEmpowered: Why Family Organization Matters at Work Why Family Organization Matters at Work: Nixit’s Neurodivergent-Fir...

Four kids. One September.

If you've ever run a 2:40 PM therapy appointment from a parking lot while your laptop screamed at you from the passenger seat, this one is for you.

Wednesday at noon I'm presenting to the Colorado Neurodiversity Chamber of Commerce: Why Family Organization Matters at Work. First public look at NixIt before launch.

Free virtual event. Link in comments.

Jack's car needed an oil change. It had needed one the month before, too.

He is 25. He has a job, a diagnosis, a written report, and a folder of referrals somewhere in his room. None of it helps on the morning the wrench light comes on and his brain files it under "later."

If you love someone neurodivergent, you know that morning. It is not the crisis. It is not the diagnosis. It is Tuesday.

Here is what I have learned building NixIt. Almost every support we have points at the two ends of the story: the diagnosis at the beginning and the crisis at the end. The years in between, where people actually live, get almost nothing. At eighteen the IEP ends, the counselor is gone, and what remains is a family coordinating a dozen apps and five to fifteen professionals who have never spoken to each other.

This year 4,589 autistic adults were asked what kind of support would actually help. Crisis apps ranked last. Tools built for how their brains actually work, connected to people who understand, ranked first.

Nearly five thousand people said: stop building for the emergency. Build for the day.

So we did. Jack's oil got changed. Nobody lectured him. A text showed up on the right morning with the next small step and nothing else.

I wrote the whole thing up, with the research and what an adult evaluation actually costs. Link in the comments.

And if you want to see what a Tuesday looks like with a little help text Hi NixIt! at +19706017871. It works over regular texting. No app, no download.

Come Join CEO & Founder Kathy Womack Long with back to school tips and tricks for neurodivergent families

NeuroEmpowered Professionals Series:
Why Family Organization Matters at Work
Wednesday, September 9, 2026 | 12:00 PM - 1:00 PM

NeuroEmpowered Professionals Series: Why Family Organization Matters at Work — Colorado Neurodiversity Chamber of Commerce About NeuroEmpowered Professionals Series A monthly program created to support neurodivergent professionals, entrepreneurs, creatives, and job seekers who want to grow their skills, strengthen their self-advocacy, and connect with a supportive community. Each session dives into topics such as wo

There is a song in my head right now. There almost always is.

Last night at 3AM it was Deceptacon by Le Tigre. Played it through, got one minute of peace, then my brain served up Private Idaho by the B-52s because it had decided one was built on the other and had to solve it before I was allowed to sleep.

Also true: I can hear my son cough from the basement, two floors down. Same kid says Mom from the next room and I hear nothing.

I finally read the science on all of it and wrote it up. Link in comments if you also have to know.

Who else has the radio? What's playing right now? I'm collecting data.
https://nixit.ai/blog/stuck-song-syndrome

Team NixIt made it out to watch a Denver Summit FC match and got away from their computers for the night.