Nested Hearth

Not the peace that comes from everything being resolved, mine isn’t.

The peace that comes from not needing it to be resolved today for me to be okay right now.

I’ve heard people describe healing as a finish line.

For me, it’s looked more like this: a quiet morning, a face I recognize in the mirror, one decision made without asking anyone’s permission first.

Peace isn’t the reward at the end.

It’s something you can put on today.

And for the record. I love a good road trip 💛

If this lands at all for you comment SOMA, I’ll send you something that might help.

❤️Jenn

The story is partially shared because how do you share every detail.

You gave the marriage all you had, and more, and it still wasn’t enough. And now it’s over.

That leaves you sitting in a lonely place to be with all the memories of what were, what are, and what will never be.

You’re doing all the “healing things” and it still hurts like crazy.

You’re not alone in this. Those times are more than hard.

We’ve crossed paths for a reason.

❤️Jenn

Broken trust in a relationship doesn’t happen in a day.

It breaks down slowly over time, and you start to lose trust in yourself long before you realize it’s happening.

You can start to trust yourself again, even if the relationship is still hanging in the balance.

It doesn’t mean you’ll never be wrong.

It means you stop waiting to be certain before you let yourself move.

Some days it looks small. Not the version of the day someone else would’ve approved of.

Just the one you actually chose.

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❤️Jenn

True.

Our brain was literally created to detect danger.

Your nervous system doesn’t need a “big enough” betrayal to sound the alarm. It was built to detect danger and it doesn’t ask your permission about what qualifies.

That’s not you being dramatic. That’s your brain doing exactly what it’s designed to do: keeping you safe based on what it’s already learned to be afraid of.

Truth? Yes, this is response has layers of generational trauma as well as what you have experienced in this life.

Between my trainings and my personal experience, I have learned how this trauma holds in your body. I know first hand the cost of this holding.

The good news? The brain can relearn what’s safe so you don’t run your life on empty and bracing everyday.

If you want to learn more from me about betrayal trauma, comment Soma, so you can.

❤️ Jenn

The tide doesn’t come in all at once.

It comes back, again and again, at its own pace.

And it never once apologizes for how long that takes.

You don’t have to either.

Healing isn’t a straight line you’re falling behind on.

It’s learning to recognize what’s coming before it takes over.

And it’s a return.

Over and over, until it holds.

❤️ Jenn

Not shutting down.

Not giving up.

Just, done pretending the day was fine when it wasn’t.

Done answering “how are you” with the version that makes other people comfortable.

For some people, healing starts the moment they stop narrating their life for an audience.

Even if the only audience was ever themselves.

If today wasn’t fine, it doesn’t have to be. You’re allowed to close the laptop and just be tired.

if this sounds familiar at all comment Soma, and I’ll send you something that might help.

❤️Jenn

You can list every reason you’re safe now.

The list is accurate. And it doesn’t land.

Safety isn’t decided by the mind, it’s learned by the body, the same way it learned to brace.

Through accumulated experience, not through argument.

That’s slower than deciding. It’s also more durable.

If this is where you are right now, comment SOMA and I’ll send you something that may bring some clarity.

❤️ Jenn