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When people think about delegating, it can feel risky. Someone else might do it slower or differently, so you keep doing what feels safe and handle it yourself.

But the real risk isn't in handing off a task and having it go sideways once, or not come out perfect right up front. The real risk is continuing to be the only person who can do it.

So being a little uncomfortable now, and letting someone struggle through it while the stakes are still low enough to recover, is what builds a person who can handle it well when the stakes are higher.

Delegating isn't the risk, being the only one who can do it is.

If leading people has felt harder than the technical work ever did, there's a reason, and it isn't the one you've probably been telling yourself.

There are two disciplines underneath every senior technical role. The first you built over years, until it became second nature. The second is leading people, and almost no one who reaches this level was ever given the same chance to build it. You were handed a team, a title, and the assumption that leadership would simply be there.

So when it doesn't come as easily, the story you tell yourself is that maybe you're not cut out for this part. But that's not what's happening. You're comparing a discipline you spent years developing to one no one ever developed with you, and then wondering why they don't feel the same.

Here's what to remember. The second discipline is exactly that: a discipline. Which means it builds the same way the first one did, on purpose and over time.

The higher you rise, the more your leadership habits matter because more people feel their effects.

The habits that got you here won't always be the ones that help you thrive at the next level. That's not a failing. It's just what happens when the role gets bigger.

My newest post looks at which leadership habits are worth keeping, which are worth rethinking, and how to lead more deliberately as your responsibility grows.

Read it here: https://wix.to/tmEFA8h

The Higher You Rise, the More Your Leadership Habits Matter The habits that got you here won't always be the ones that let you thrive at the next level. As your reach grows, so does the weight of how you lead. Here's what's worth examining as the role gets bigger.

70% of the variance in a team's engagement comes down to one person: the manager.

Now look at that beside another figure: 51% of managers step into people leadership with no formal training. The biggest factor in whether a team thrives is a set of skills we rarely teach the person we've made responsible for them.

Sources: Gallup; American Management Association, 2026

The fear nobody says out loud is that if you stop being the one with the answers, you stop being valuable.

It makes sense, because people respect you for your expertise. So the idea of stepping back from it can feel like you're erasing the thing that made you valuable in the first place. But when everything runs through the expert, the knowledge stops with you. And your team stays one step behind, because they don't have the answers in their own heads.

The shift isn't from expert to something less. It's from being the person with the answers to being the person who builds others who have them.

Why does being kind become confused with avoiding a hard conversation?

For a lot of leaders who came up through the technical side, it runs even deeper, because the hardest conversations can be with people you have real history with. The person who trained you and is now your direct report. The person whose work you respect, which makes discussing a problem feel like a betrayal.

So you soften it until the point is gone. You let it go because saying it feels unkind.

But real respect is telling someone what they need to hear while they still have time to do something with it. Letting a good person keep missing the mark because the conversation is uncomfortable isn't kindness.

Caring about someone and being willing to be direct with them are not opposites. Learning to be clear and respectful at the same time is what leading people is mostly about.

If this is the kind of thing you're working through in your own leadership, I'm here or at [email protected].

Goldsmith's whole point (his book by this name is excellent)is that it isn't your technical skill that limits you at the next level, it's behavior. The habits that made you excellent at doing the work can become the very things that hold you back once the job is about leading the people who do it.

Worth some reflection on which of yours are still serving you.

Does it feel uncomfortable to take a look at everything that's actually going well?

For a lot of leaders it can, because acknowledging what's working can feel like taking your eye off what isn't. But if you're only ever scanning for the problem, what you lose is the ability to see your own progress.

What if you took a couple of minutes at the start of the day to recognize what's actually working? Maybe the person who's grown, the process that's finally running clean, or the fire that never happened because someone handled it before it reached you.

It won't make you complacent.

What it will do is help you see more clearly, and a leader who sees clearly makes better calls than one running on nothing but what's broken.

If you took a vacation this summer, was it with a phone in your hand?

Some part of the operation still goes through you no matter where you are.

You've made peace with it, mostly. This is just what the job is.

But a team that can't run for a week without you isn't a sign of how essential you are. It's a sign of how much still stays with you that was never built into them.

The goal isn't to matter less. It's to build a team that runs so well you get to actually leave.

The strongest signal of how a team is really running isn't in the numbers. It's in what happens to a decision after your people make one without you.

If it holds, you've built something.

If it comes back to you to be re-made, or your team constantly waits to check with you before it's final, that tells you where adjustments are needed.