Dr. Ellen Reed, Performance Coach

It is, but it isn’t your nervous system…

Doing this out loud makes all the difference…

Close call. Almost missed out on big future opportunity there…

Flow states are awesome when they come, but totally overrated…

Good thing I walked in on this before he grabbed any “handy bag” he wanted. 😅 Settled on the $19.99 bag from Amazon, but it wasn’t his first choice…

Here are 3 simple steps to fix it (from a PhD high-performance coach). ⬇️⬇️⬇️ And don’t skip number 2!

Step 1. Decide very SPECIFICALLY—What is your next goal? What is the next level that you want to accomplish? This shouldn’t just be “more.” Make sure this is measurable and can realistically be accomplished within the next 12 months. For example, “Increase my income to X,” or “Reach X number of followers,” or “Improve my GPA to X.” 🎯

Step 2. Write this goal down! This is an important step that you shouldn’t skip. For one, science shows that those who write down their goals are significantly more likely to achieve them. Secondly, having it written will not allow you to move the target when you start to get close. ✍️

Step 3. Celebrate! When you hit your goal, do something to celebrate your accomplishment—Go out for your favorite dinner, get tickets to a game, buy something you’ve been wanting. This doesn’t have to be huge, but it needs to be done. 🎉

Doing these 3 simple steps will be a game-changer for your fulfillment, happiness, and stamina.

Here is how you get yourself out of this negative cycle. (Don’t worry, it’s much simpler than you think.) ⬇️

And don’t beat yourself up about being in this spot. MOST people (especially perfectionist high-achievers) are falling short of the expectations they have for themselves because they are making one or both of these mistakes:

1️⃣ Trying to commit to too much.

2️⃣ Being unclear about EXACTLY what they should be disciplined about.

So let’s fix this.

Don’t try to be disciplined in every minute, with every decision of the day‼️This is a losing battle, which then forms the habit of losing, which then forms a negative cycle and self-image… 🔄

Instead, focus on “WINNING THE 30.”

Let me explain—Choose one thing to commit to for 30 minutes per day. Maybe this is 30 minutes of exercise, or 30 minutes of prospect calls, or 30 minutes of content creation, etc.

The earlier in the day you can commit to this 30 minutes, the better. Block it off in your calendar. 📆

Tell yourself that if you WIN THIS 30, YOU WIN THE DAY. 🏆🏆🏆

And this isn’t just blowing smoke—when you start your day by following through with the discipline of that 30 minutes, you will get the benefit of the performance-enhancing neurotransmitters that come along with that win.

WIN THE 30, WIN THE DAY

This forms a POSITIVE CYCLE of winning and following through 🏆 The results will speak for themselves 🙌

If you are tired of your PERFECTIONIST MENTALITY causing you stress and imposter syndrome, comment “CHALLENGE” and I’ll send you the details!