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Why do you remember the one thing your partner forgot and not the ten things they did? Dr. Rick Hanson: the brain is Velcro for bad experiences and Teflon for good ones. You're not in a bad relationship — you're running biased software. Comment ONE thing your partner did right this week. Then go tell them.

When did you last kiss your partner for longer than one second? The Gottmans recommend a 6-second kiss — long enough to notice you're kissing someone. Busy couples don't lack love. They lack rituals. Comment TODAY or CAN'T REMEMBER. No shame — that's the point.

Mid-fight, does your partner crack a joke or reach for your hand… and you ignore it? Gottman calls that a repair attempt — and whether you accept it predicts more than the fight itself. Are you the JOKER or the IGNORER? Comment which one. Tag your partner if you dare.

Quick — what's your partner's biggest stress right now? Not last year. Right now. Gottman calls it a Love Map, and they go stale. Comment YES if you knew instantly, NO if you had to think.

Do you and your partner still talk about anything besides the kids, the money, and what's for dinner? Same couch. Same shows. Same 3 topics. That's not falling out of love — that's becoming roommates. And it's fixable. Comment ROOMMATES if that's your house right now.

Do you ever roll your eyes at your partner? Even as a joke? Gottman found 4 behaviors that predict divorce with 90%+ accuracy. The worst one is contempt — eye rolls, sarcasm, "whatever." Comment GUILTY or NEVER. Your partner can fact-check you below.

Why does every fight about the dishes turn into something bigger? Dr. Sue Johnson says almost every recurring fight is hiding one question: are you there for me? What's the dumbest fight you keep having? Comment it — I promise someone has the same one.

When your partner goes quiet in a fight, do you push harder — or shut down? Gottman measured it: one partner gets flooded, heart rate over 100, thinking shuts off. It looks like not caring. It's overload. Comment PUSHER or SHUTDOWN and send this to the person who needs to see the other side.

When your partner shows you something on their phone… do you actually look up? Gottman calls that moment a BID for connection. Couples who stayed together answered them 86% of the time. Divorced couples: 33%. Be honest — comment YES if you look up, NO if you scroll. 👇

Love doesn't stay perfectly balanced every day.

There will be seasons when one person has more to give, more patience, or more emotional capacity than the other. What matters is knowing that when life gets difficult, the relationship has enough love and commitment to carry both people through.

Real love isn't about keeping score. It's about showing up. Take the 30-Day LoveSpark Challenge and learn practical ways to strengthen communication, connection, and lasting love.
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