In Flow ADHD Coaching

Selective hearing, but unfortunately the selection is chewing. 😑

I know “do what you say you’re going to do” might sound a little harsh 😬… but I actually don’t think it’s a lot to ask.

It’s probably the thing I admire most about my partner. He is full of integrity. If he says he’s going to do something, he does it. I never have to wonder if I can rely on him, and I know I can count on him for absolutely anything.

For my ADHD brain, that is HUGE. My brain already creates enough uncertainty on its own. Having someone beside me who feels steady and predictable takes away a layer of mental load I don’t think he even realises he’s removing.

And that’s really the point of all of these.

You don’t need to understand every single thing about ADHD to be a supportive partner. Learn her patterns. Ask what she needs instead of assuming. Notice when she’s reaching her limit. Be someone she can rely on.

She doesn’t need another person managing her trust me she does enough of that in her own head. She needs a teammate.

ADHD women, what would you add to this list?

Comment “SYSTEMS” and I’ll send you the full article where I go into way more detail about all of these 👀

I’ve tried a LOT of ways to manage my ADHD over the years. No surprise here but… most of them did not survive.

These did though. I think the biggest difference is that none of them require me to suddenly become a more organised, disciplined, consistent version of myself. They’re built around the brain I actually have.

Some are ridiculously simple. Some took me years of trial and error to figure out. And some only exist because I’ve learned the hard way what happens when I don’t have a system, if I’m being honest.

I wrote out all 9 properly, including exactly how I use them in real life, what I automate, how I externalise my brain, what I do when I have momentum, and the one that probably took me the longest to learn.

Comment “SYSTEMS” and I’ll send you the article. (It’s free)

Things that make absolutely no sense until you have ADHD…. and then suddenly they make SO much sense that you’re slightly concerned we’re all sharing the same brain.

I’ve been listening to a lot of Gary Vee lately and I really like the way he thinks. I know he’s not for everyone but personally, I love his zest and intensity.

Not everything he says is going to work for everyone, obviously, but there are little bits I keep hearing and thinking, “Yep. My brain needs that.”

I especially love the last point; the idea of using your urgency for ACTION, while having patience with the outcome. That one is staying with me.

Also, if you need something positive and energizing in your ears this week, his podcast episode with Mel Robbins is such a good listen. I finished it feeling weirdly motivated about life.

Comment “GARY” and I’ll send you the episode 🩵

The more I look at highly successful ADHDers, the more I notice how little they rely on simply “remembering.”

We spend so much time feeling like we should be able to hold everything in our heads. Meanwhile, some incredibly successful people are walking around with notebooks, reminders, calendars and entire systems keeping their brains on track.

(And yes, I am aware that some of them have entire teams of people helping them. Most of us do not. But the principle is still useful.)

So…with that in mind, I’ve officially stopped treating “I’ll remember” as a reliable storage system.

If it matters, it needs to live somewhere outside my head.

How an ADHDer applies chapstick:

Step 1: Need chapstick.
Step 2: Conduct a full archaeological excavation of handbag.
Step 3: Find several objects you haven’t seen since 2025.
Step 4: Chapstick was in your pocket the entire time.

At least we found the muesli bar.

The ADHD tax is one of those things that sounds kind of funny until you start thinking about how much money you’ve actually lost to it over the years. 😭

Late fees, forgotten subscriptions, rebuying things you already own, food that had very good intentions when you bought it.

Individually, whatever. But over a lifetime? I actually don’t want to know. 😒

Getting into the car: a task that should take 30 seconds and somehow has 14 side quests.

And yes, talking to ourselves the whole time is a very realistic scenario.

There is actually a message behind my very passionate body doubling rant 🤭

There is SO much ADHD information out there now, which is amazing. And if you’re learning about ADHD because you love, live with or work with someone who has it, I genuinely loveeeee that!

But please remember you’re learning about ADHD. You’re not necessarily learning about THEIR ADHD. We’re all SO different. ANDDDD we genuinely love when people ask us what works for us and how they can help 🫶

By the way, this goes for ADHDers too. If you try a strategy everyone swears by and it does absolutely nothing for you, that doesn’t mean you’re bad at having ADHD 😂 (because I know you’ll judge yourself!!!) You already give yourself enough crap. You don’t need to add “failed at ADHD strategy” to the list.

Experiment and keep what helps. Ditch what doesn’t.

Your job is to figure out your brain, not make your brain fit someone else’s advice. 😘