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Afghanistan and Nigeria are not the same, and history does not repeat itself in identical ways. But the experiences of Afghan women remind us that rights and opportunities deserve constant attention and protection. 

What lessons do you think Nigeria and the rest of the world should learn?

Could rejection be one experience among many? Of course. But reducing an entire political movement to romantic disappointment is both intellectually lazy and deeply revealing. It suggests that some people cannot imagine women forming convictions unless those convictions are somehow rooted in men's approval or rejection.

Benevolent misogyny happens when women are treated as fragile or  incapable, all under the guise of protection or respect.

Statements that are restrictive under the guise of care ate built on the belief that a woman's value lies in dependence, not choice. “I will never let my wife work out late, late nights are unsafe” sounds  like care but is very misogynistic. 

Believing that women should have fewer choices because you think you know what's best for them is a problem. 

The best way to actually care is treating them like full human beings who have a choice

For years, many women living with PCOS felt misunderstood because the name itself focused mainly on ovarian cysts, even though the condition affects much more than that. Many people with PCOS do not even have actual ovarian cysts, yet the name shaped how the condition was viewed and discussed. That is one of the major reasons why the term is now being changed to PMOS. 

PMOS, which stands for Polyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome, reflects the reality that the condition affects multiple systems in the body, not just the ovaries. The new name acknowledges the hormonal, metabolic, reproductive, and even psychological effects many women experience, including irregular periods, insulin resistance, acne, weight changes, fertility struggles, and mental health challenges. The change is meant to create a broader and more accurate understanding of the condition.

The shift from PCOS to PMOS is also about improving awareness, reducing misunderstanding, and helping women receive more complete care instead of having their symptoms reduced to “ovarian cysts.” Many advocates and medical professionals believe the new name can encourage earlier diagnosis, better conversations around women’s health, and more holistic treatment approaches for those living with the condition.

Listen to women, take their pain seriously, and also, seek proper medical attention when symptoms become severe or unusual.

there is no universal timeline for womanhood.
Some women spend their twenties surviving. Some are building careers. Some are healing. Some are caregiving. Some simply haven’t met the right person. Some are still discovering themselves.

The pressure to “arrive” before a certain age has harmed so many women emotionally, mentally, and socially.

Maybe it’s time we stopped asking women if they are “late” and started asking if they are happy, fulfilled, safe, loved, and living authentically.

“African first daughters grew up too fast” They were the child sent to hold the baby, cook for younger ones, explain away their parents’ stress, and always “know better.” While other children were allowed to be careless, emotional, stubborn, or confused, first daughters were often treated like unfinished adults.

They learned early that mistakes came with heavier consequences for them, so they became careful, hyper-aware, and emotionally guarded long before they should have been.

This is a cycle we should end and not praise.

Over the weekend, Nigerian women showed up and showed out on the red carpet and here's our top 5 Nigerian women from the AMVCA red carpet 🤗 Comment yours? 🥰