StephREDD

One of the greatest limitations that keeps people from achieving their goals is the fear of stepping out.

Because of this fear, we often hide behind excuses, lining up endless "WHAT IF...?"

We create stories to justify our hesitation, but beneath many of those stories lies fear - fear of failure, of rejection, of making mistakes, or of not being accepted.

Yet, the truth is that mistakes, failures, and even rejections are part of the journey. They are not signs that you should stop; they are often the very experiences that shape your growth and add depth to your success story.

Staying where you are because of fear is often the riskiest option of all. If you never step out, you never discover what is possible.

Life comes with certain guarantees.
DEATH, for instance, is GUARANTEED. You can sit in one spot all your life, doing nothing, and still meet that end. But if you step out and pursue your purpose, YES, there is a chance you may fail. There is a chance you may face disappointment. But there is also a chance that you may SUCCEED. On that flicker of hope, MOVE!

I often think about the four lepers in the Bible who said, "If we stay here, we will die. If we go to the camp, we may die. But they may also show us mercy."

Those lepers chose movement over stagnation, possibility over certainty, and hope over fear. And because they stepped out, their lives changed.

I invite you to approach life in the same manner. Move forward with the hope that things can work out.
Give your best effort.
Take the step.
Learn the lesson.
Make the adjustment.
Then... TAKE ANOTHER STEP.

STOP telling yourself the stories that make you comfortable today. Rather, inspire yourself with stories that your future will thank you for.

So, step out....
Keep showing up....
Keep moving forward....
An...
NEVER GIVE UP UNTIL YOU WIN!

FINISH STRONG!💥

I frequently hear people talk about their spec.

- "I want a man like this."
- "I want a woman like that."
- "He must tick these boxes."
- "She must have these qualities."

But very rarely do I hear people ask themselves a more important question:

"𝑫𝒐 𝑰 𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒌 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒐𝒙𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝑰'𝒎 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓?"

It's one thing to prepare to meet your ideal partner. But it's another thing entirely to prepare to become the ideal partner for the kind of person you desire.

Many people are searching for Mr. Right or Miss Right while neglecting the work required to become Mr. Right or Miss Right themselves.

In those Disney fairy tales we grew up with, through which many of us were misguided, the "knight in shining armor" usually doesn't choose someone simply because she was waiting for him. He is drawn to certain qualities: character, courage, kindness, wisdom, grace, resilience, and values that align with his own.

The same applies in real life. The person you're praying for is likely praying for someone too.

The person you're hoping to attract is probably developing themselves, growing, healing, learning, and preparing for the future they envision.

The question is: Would they recognise you as part of that future if they met you today?

This goes beyond the present. As human beings, we are constantly evolving. Who you were ten years ago is not who you are today, and who you are today is not who you will be ten years from now. Unless you choose stagnation.

Successful relationships are not built merely on fitting into someone's anticipated future; but also on the ability to grow into each other's progressive future - evolving, adapting, and becoming better together.

So before you spend all your energy defining your spec, spend some time refining yourself.

Don't just look for someone who ticks all your boxes. Become, TOO, someone who ticks theirs.

The best relationships are not built by two people searching for perfection; they are built by two people intentionally becoming the kind of people who can grow, thrive, and build a meaningf

I frequently hear people talk about their spec.

- "I want a man like this."
- "I want a woman like that."
- "He must tick these boxes."
- "She must have these qualities."

But very rarely do I hear people ask themselves a more important question:

𝑫𝒐 𝑰 𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒌 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒐𝒙𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝑰'𝒎 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓?

It's one thing to prepare to meet your ideal partner. But it's another thing entirely to prepare to become the ideal partner for the kind of person you desire.

Many people are searching for Mr. Right or Miss Right while neglecting the work required to become Mr. Right or Miss Right themselves.

In those Disney fairy tales we grew up with, through which many of us were misguided, the "knight in shining armor" usually doesn't choose someone simply because she was waiting for him. He is drawn to certain qualities: character, courage, kindness, wisdom, grace, resilience, and values that align with his own.

The same applies in real life. The person you're praying for is likely praying for someone too.

The person you're hoping to attract is probably developing themselves, growing, healing, learning, and preparing for the future they envision.

The question is: Would they recognise you as part of that future if they met you today?

This goes beyond the present. As human beings, we are constantly evolving. Who you were ten years ago is not who you are today, and who you are today is not who you will be ten years from now. Unless you choose stagnation.

Successful relationships are not built merely on fitting into someone's anticipated future; but also on the ability to grow into each other's progressive future - evolving, adapting, and becoming better together.

So before you spend all your energy defining your spec, spend some time refining yourself.

Don't just look for someone who ticks all your boxes. Become, TOO, someone who ticks theirs.

The best relationships are not built by two people searching for perfection; they are built by two people intentionally becoming the kind of people who can grow, thrive, and build a meaningful

The kind of deep work we get to do as Coaches requires making time to let our hair down and allow some fresh breeze to blow through the intensity of all we carry.

Today, hanging out with my fellow coaches of the Life Coaches Association of Nigeria Life Coaches Association NG at The Hub Lagos THE HUB was exactly that.

No airs. No professional jargon. No serious conversations about frameworks, goals, or transformation.🥵

JUST PLAY.💃🏽🤸🏽‍♀️ Adults having healthy fun, engaging in light-hearted conversations, sharing laughs, enjoying a few bites here and there, and of course... taking pictures.
Lots of selfies... My Speciality😁 Because, really, what's life without a selfie? 🤨

It was such a beautiful reminder that while purpose is important, so is pause. While impact matters, so does connection. And while we spend our days helping others thrive, we must also create space to simply be.

And hey, have you checked out THE HUB? You should. It's a lovely spot to unwind, connect, recharge, and just enjoy good company.

Enjoy a beautiful and refreshing rest of the weekend ahead.

Many of us are not struggling because we don't know what to do. We are struggling because of beliefs we have never questioned.

Beliefs about food.....about money.....about relationships ("𝘼𝙡𝙡 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙡𝙙-𝙙𝙞𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙧𝙨." "𝙈𝙚𝙣 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙘𝙪𝙢.")..about success.....and even about 𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗩𝗘𝗦.

Over time, these beliefs become so familiar that we stop seeing them as beliefs and begin to see them as facts.

But every behaviour is driven by a story, and every choice is supported by a belief. Our habits are sustained by programmes running somewhere beneath our awareness.

The things you insist you cannot do without....
The things you automatically say "𝗬𝗲𝘀" or "𝗡𝗼" to.
The things you believe are "𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘪𝘴."

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself where those ideas came from?🤔

None of us arrived here with these beliefs. We learned them, absorbed them, inherited them, and practised them until they became our reality.

If you are struggling to achieve a shift or transformation in any area of your life, you may already have all the information and knowledge you need. Yet, you still struggle because 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.

So, I invite you to sit with yourself as frequently as you can and ask:

"𝙒𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙢𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙧𝙪𝙣𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙚, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙡𝙮 𝙨𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙩𝙖𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙩𝙧𝙮𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙪𝙞𝙡𝙙?"

Perhaps it's time to pause and audit your programming.

𝗨𝗡𝗩𝗘𝗜𝗟 it...
𝗥𝗘𝗩𝗜𝗘𝗪 it...
𝗥𝗘𝗗𝗘𝗙𝗜𝗡𝗘 it...
and 𝗥𝗘𝗟𝗔𝗨𝗡𝗖𝗛 intentionall

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