Getting REAL WITH ADA

WHEN EVERY MOTHER WAS OUR MOTHER…

There was a time when every child was every mother’s responsibility—not just their biological mother’s.

A mother’s friend, neighbour, aunt, uncle, or any trusted adult could correct a child without being accused of interfering. If you were seen behaving inappropriately, someone would speak up. Indecent dressing and unacceptable behaviour were not tolerated simply because your parents were away.

Parents could confidently entrust their children to extended family members, friends, and neighbours because the community shared a sense of responsibility for raising and protecting children.

Today, the attitude of “Leave my child alone and mind your business” has weakened that communal responsibility.

When genuine correction disappears, children can be left vulnerable to harmful influences and, in some cases, abuse. This does not mean every practice of the past was perfect, nor that every modern approach is wrong. It means we should not lose the valuable principle that protecting and guiding children is a shared responsibility.

Perhaps what we need is not simply a return to the past, but a return to community, accountability, proper boundaries, and genuine concern for every child.

A child may belong to a family, but protecting a child should concern the whole community.

WHEN YOUR FREE SON BEGS TO BE A PRISONER

" God forbid!".. .is not enough as a parent when you watch some of our children 's actions & say nothing. Malnutrition, pain , suffering & confinement made prisoners lose weight, such that the clothes given to them pull out of their butts, while they drag & struggle to walk with them.... TODAY, FREE YOUTHS BEG TO BE PRISONERS & CALL IT FASHION!!!! The streets are filled with more "prisoners" than free young youth, all in the name of SAGGING.
How many young boys have you spoken to against this? Where are you when your free son begs to be a prisoner? Remember not to complain later for what you permit today. Be an intentional parent, be practical, be REAL.

HE IS ONLY A CHILD:
This is one common defensive statement parents make that ruins a child. ".....one single button on my suit can buy 5 clothes for you..." the child in question covered his face in shame & tears when other children who heard that started laughing at him.

That is ARROGANCE, PRIDE, RUDE & INSENSITIVE. Who raised such a child? Rather than scolding a tender minded DEPENDENT minor, his parent would trivialize it, tap his back & see it as being bold & declare👉 "he's only a child".

We should be mindful of who we raise to live among others to avoid training a dog that bites the owner at full age. It's easier to change a CHILD than an adult. Successful parenting is a tasks.

ALL ATTENTION ON THE GIRL CHILD:
Days are gone when it's all about our female children. The male children are going through a lot of issues with little or no parental attention. As a committed parent do not relax when they are or visit their fellow boys, uncles & school mates. Pay close attention as well. Some mature men are becoming wicked, demonic & inconsiderate. Young men, peer groups, age mates also share a lot, which include THE GOOD, THE BAD & THE UGLY , endeavor to be part of it as a paren, to aid you identify the "things" available to be SHARED with your child. Please be intentional.

SELFISH LOVING PARENT:
It hurts to see what parents go through for their children, yet, they're VERY SELFISH to the same children. Those times you don't care what you do, post, or share on social media to make money to meet your immediate needs without minding if your children can stand the shame when they're of age, you're SELFISH

When your interest is to attract public validation on all sorts without giving a thought about your reputation after the season and if your children will be PROUD to introduce you as their parent, you're SELFISH. Your interest is only on what you gain, not minding the social, emotional, or moral PRICE your children stand to PAY, it's very inconsiderate.

GREAT PARENTS ARE CONSCIOUS:
As much as we work so hard to ensure our children do not experience some pains we went through while growing up, be smart to make them realize how hard you work to provide the comfort they enjoy. Create delay sometimes to teach them, expose them to discomfort sometimes to kill pride & arrogance. When you do these, you only make them realize the difference between PRIVILEGES & RIGHT. Prepare them for the future when you'll not ALWAYS be there.

PRIVATE COACHING & THE LEARNERS KNOWLEDGE:
Amazing method to assist our children in areas of academic deficiencies, but, dear parents, it's not enough to engage a private teacher to aid your child, do well to check what they are being taught "PRIVATELY" & what the child is WILLING to learn. Every knowledge/information has an impact targeting a child 's future towards GREATNESS OR DEMISE. Times have changed. Be an intentional parent, be REALISTIC & let's do it together...

GREATEST VALENTINE GIFT SO IGNORED:
This gift looks small but highly valuable to as many that pay attention to it. As the world has recognized this day , pay attention to your family, your presence is the greatest gift of love you can offer to your children. Fortunately, it falls on a weekend, no matter how busy you may claim to be, make INTENTIONAL SACRIFICE & create a LOVELY MEMORY this day. There's no magic to a successful parenting than being REAL to your family.

THE LORD WILL LEAD OUR PATHS THIS YEAR. HE'LL RENEW STRENGTH,WISDOM, RESOURCES & HEALTH TO EVERY PARENT. OUR CHILDREN WILL START & FINISH WELL. NON OF THEM SHALL BE FOUND MISSING IN JESUS NAME....AMEN. HAPPY NEW YEAR.
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HURT BY THE HANDS THAT ARE MEANT TO PROTECT:
This is the moment when parents lift their hands in ANGER, frustration & impulse against their children. Many have caused permanent pain or damage on these children out of UNCONTROLABLE anger. The intention is to correct not to destroy that which we work so hard to nurture. My father of blessed memory once described anger as a TEMPORARY madness, a BURNING FLAME that cooks no food & A FAST SERVANT that needs no salary. Let's be guided when we intend to DISCIPLINE.