Anna Gonowon Coaching

If your conversations end well and nothing changes, track the difference between agreement and lack of outcome.

My Communication & Conflict Patterns cohort begins November 9. Details are through the link in my bio. Limited to 10 people.

“Wait and see” is effective when you know what you’re waiting to see.

What specifically needs to change? What would meaningful improvement look like? How long would you need to observe it before deciding something is genuinely different?

My husband has decided the Sun Moon Lake Ropeway is Taiwan Stone Mountain cable car.

His reasoning: Stone Mountain's cable car goes up once and down once. The Sun Moon Lake Ropeway goes up and down twice to get there, then does it all again on the way back.

Therefore, according to his math, it is at least twice the value.

I did point out that flying to Taiwan considerably increased the cost of the Sun Moon Lake Ropeway, but he told me to forget about that. 😅

Husband Math, I guess? Although, it's actually four times the value, not twice.

If you keep waiting for one more sign, be honest with yourself:

Is more of what you already know going to materially change anything?

We’ll work with questions like this in No Contact, Hope, & What To Do Next, beginning October 7. Enrollment is open through the link in my bio.

Understanding why things happened matters deeply.

But hyperinvestigation can eventually get you stuck in a loop and prevent you from taking necessary action. Understanding and deciding are often two separate problems.

My neurodivergent brain constantly scans my life and experiences for details, asks what’s missing, and questions whether I’ve been thorough enough.

So one question I’ve asked myself throughout this Taiwan trip is: “Am I doing enough?”

My husband’s brain is clearly different.

He later explained that, from his perspective, we’ve been doing a ton. Whatever we’ve done is enough. We don’t need an exhausting, packed itinerary to have a wonderful vacation.

Meanwhile, he has five pounds of change to deal with.

If you’re rebuilding trust after a betrayal, decide what improvement looks like first.

My six-week Betrayal & Trust Reconstruction cohort begins November 9. Details are through the link in my bio. Limited to 10 people.

If you’re changing what you post, say, wear, or do because of what your ex might think, take a step back and ask yourself what you'd do if they couldn't see whatever you're about to do.

What would you do if you knew they would never see it?

One of my favorite parts of traveling with my husband is figuring things out together.

In Tainan, that meant two Michelin Bib Gourmand restaurants, Xie Shopkeeper and Eat Too Fat, no English menus, heavy reliance on a translator app, and delightfully waiting to see whether what arrived was what we thought we’d ordered.

Familiarity is not necessary for us to go somewhere. In fact, we purposefully choose unfamiliar places in unfamiliar settings because we love the challenge of it all. To us, it's like a puzzle or a fun game.

100% loved the food at both places, and we highly recommend checking them out.

Xie Shopkeeper 謝掌櫃
WALK-INS ONLY
Hours vary. Check before going.
Address: 5, Lane 23, Yunhe Road, Anping District, Tainan
Chinese: 台南市安平區運河路23巷5號

Eat to Fat 添厚
RESERVATIONS ONLY.
Hours vary. Check before going.
Address: No. 3, Lane 125, Xinmei Street, West Central District, Tainan
Chinese: 台南市中西區新美街125巷3號
Phone: +886 6 222 9109

After a good conversation with your ex, write down any agreement or solution you came up with. Then focus on concrete items to review during your next conversation.

No Contact, Hope, & What To Do Next begins October 7. Enrollment is open through the link in my bio.