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We had a swift turnaround after our 15 year anniversary to head to Maui for our dear friends, Nathan and Tyler’s gorgeous beach wedding! I had the honor and privilege of officiating (my 8th wedding!) and our Daphne had her 2nd flower girl gig of the year (she was amazing). It was such a special, intimate, beautiful and memorable ceremony.

Each time I’ve officiated a wedding ceremony I’ve had the opportunity to reflect on my own relationship. In fact, attending all wedding ceremonies offers a mirror to my union. It’s almost like our own recommitment ceremony when we get to hear another couples vows and dedication to each other.

Life moves so quickly and yet, these sacred and special celebrations allow for time to slow down just enough to commemorate a significant juncture.

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In this week’s newsletter, Jonah called attention to an important question to consider in all of our relationships.

“The kind of fantasy I am referring to in relationship asks another person to fit a mold you had already created in your mind for them. Real relationships ask us to see the real person in front of us – their needs, desires, wounds, strengths, and ways of being in the world – and for you to be seen by them. As the years go by, our marriage continues to ask us to let go of the image we may have of who each other should be and allow the space for each other to be more of who we are.”

Have you ever considered the fantasies you might carry in your relationship and how they impact your ability to fully love your partner?

This past week was a celebration of 15 years of marriage for the beautiful Brittany Boersma and Jonah — and what an incredible union to celebrate!

Jonah shares such poignant and thoughtful reflections on what he’s learned in their marriage…

“Fifteen years in and I am still learning about who Brittany is. Heck, I am still learning about who I am. And we are continually learning who we are, together. My wife is far more than the woman I imagined I would marry when I was young, and I am certainly not the man I imagined I would become. Our marriage doesn’t look like what I imagined in my youth, either.

Thank God for that.“

A true example of what it means to be so committed to growth, to learning, and to choosing one another time and time again, in the face of it all. Cheers to 15 years and a powerful example of the beauty of marriage! 🥂🫶🏼✨

“Here I am, a new mom, doing what I used to do so well (cleansing, self care and daily rituals for detoxification and wellness), and struggling a bit through it. Time looks entirely different right now, things are messy and although so beautiful, hilarious and joyful, disorienting nonetheless. I know this cleanse is supportive for me in many ways and one of them is getting really clear about:

What do I need and how can I speak my needs clearly, with love?”

— Brittany Boersma

And so we ask you and encourage you to consider, our dear followers, what is it that YOU need? In this season, in this moment, from yourself and from those who love you.

MATRESCENCE ✨🌸💕

A beautiful word to encapsulate a deeply profound experience, that often carries such magnitude that it’s hard to find language for. The transition from a woman to a mother is one that is full of change, awakening, rebirth, grief and growth. You enter as one being, and leave a completely new one. It is overwhelmingly beautiful, messy, emotional and transformational.

“the profound physical, emotional, and psychological transition a person undergoes when becoming a mother.”
- Rachel M. Menge

“The seismic shift happens in every slice of the human pie, biologically, psychologically, socially, economically, existentially, ecologically and spiritually,”
- Aurélie Athan, PhD

“Although matrescence is a normal developmental process, it feels incredibly disorienting. A mother may experience joy, grief, pride, and anxiety—all in one day. She might feel a loss of her previous identity while grappling with the expectations of her new one. In short, matrescence is the messy, beautiful, complicated, and often overwhelming journey into motherhood.”
- Rachel M. Menge

If you could sit down face to face with the woman you were before your journey into motherhood, what words would you offer to her — to help, to prepare, to inspire or just to offer softness? ✨ we’d love to hear your thoughts, mamas.

In this week’s newsletter, Brittany Boersma shares so honestly about her experience on a 10 day cleanse reset. Though their healthy diet and lifestyle is fairly conducive to an easy transition into something more radical like this, she shares that the most noticeable piece has been the emotional cleansing – “I’ve shed lots of tears just coming to terms with what is realistic for my life now, the support I need, and the space I need for my own self-care.” And that is just the raw truth about life as a new mother. Adjusting, learning, grieving and growing.

It’s so important and valuable to do things like this to reset, return to your body’s homeostasis and detox the things we don’t need or want to carry in these precious bodies of ours, but it is not without shedding and grief; both emotionally and physically. To hear more about Brittany’s honest journey through her cleanse and so much more beautiful insight, subscribe to our weekly letter at the link in our BZen Wellness bio 🫶🏼

And please enjoy these moments captured of the Boersma crew picking blackberries with friends 🥰 there’s nothing sweeter than family time out in nature!