August Knox Coaching

Comment “Child” and I will send you the info on working together 🫯

Spending your childhood trying to have some semblance of a relationship with a mom who makes it your RESPONSIBILITY makes you believe that how you perform & how much you give is HOW you earn connection to others.

It means that you didn’t get cared for but had to care for her… her feelings, her moods, her needs and her opinions.

You didn’t fully get to exist and be different from who she was. You were just an extension of her needs.

And the struggle to know who you are, what you like & how to set better boundaries with her (and others) comes with a whole set of emotional baggage.

We unpack that baggage in sessions and build better resiliency in your body to know what YOU need and who YOU are, so you aren’t feeling guilty or anxious or triggered every time you choose yourself.

If you’re curious and have questions about working together, feel free to reach out and DM me. I do personally answer my messages 😉

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.
     

🔥 Comment “QUIZ” and I’ll send you my Childhood Wound Quiz to help you identify the pattern that’s still affecting you today.

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.
       

Comment “Child” and I will send you the info on working together!

You’re angry because what it cost you to be their child is ENORMOUS.

It’s not that you were able to just leave your childhood home and build the life you wanted, it’s that your thoughts, feelings, behavior, the things you believe… it was all shaped by the way they treated you and how you had to adapt in order to survive it.

You’re angry because no child deserves to be treated or spoken to in the ways you were.

That anger… it’s justified and necessary to setting boundaries and getting really clear on what feels like LOVE to you… not what you’ve been told is love.

Healing in adulthood means looking at and feeling so many things that we thought were normal but aren’t.

And finally feeling like there could have been another way is painful. It’s a crash course in grief. You lost your childhood and probably big gaps of your life as an adult too.

What do you feel has been the hardest part for you?

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.
       

Comment “BOOKS” and I will send you a list of my favorite books to heal childhood trauma, understand narcissistic families & break generational trauma ✌🏼

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.
       

Comment “LIST” and I will send you “100 Ways to Say “NO” to Narcissistic or Toxic Family” 👇🏼

You stop being the “good daughter” when you start taking care of yourself first.

You stop being “valued” when you don’t make her feel good about herself, as if every action you take was meant to pay some debt for being her child.

You stop being included and accepted when you stop performing in all the ways “good” means to a family that never really cared to know you because no one was healthy enough to actually see you.

Saying “No” seems so simple if you’ve never lived under the weight of having to choose between being loved or being hated for it.

You don’t have to give up yourself in order to keep those who benefit off of you, happy.

Breaking that cycle is painful, grieving work. If you’re in it and choosing support, check out the link in my bio for working together… so you don’t have to do it alone.

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.
       

Comment “Journal” to get the Inner Child Journal to get the questions I ask during sessions.

The compliments that aren’t compliments but ways of dismissing your trauma...

You are not the coping mechanisms you had to develop to survive your parents and they are not a reflection of who you are.

Narcissistic parents give you the role they want you to play & then punish you for not playing it. Your role feeds their ego & narcissism. Your independence starves them of the control they crave.

But it’s going to be SUPER CONFUSING when you first start healing this because even you will think you are your coping mechanisms.

Practice being able to intentionally choose how you want to respond and curious about doing things differently. This helps your nervous system find a new way of being safe while still processing some of the fear that kept you in survival in the first place.

Remember, curiosity can heal a nervous system by giving it new experiences. You don’t have to get them right, you just have to be willing to try.

Need more support? Check out my bio for info on coaching.

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.