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1. A portion of self evolution is grief. Grieving for parts of the self you need to leave behind.
2. We take for granted the implementation and necessity for record keeping of our own existence.
3. Just like different plants thrive in different seasons, so should different parts of you thrive in different conditions.
4. Yoshuku- The Japanese practice of combining our wishes with a prayer of appreciation and an act of celebration.
5. Your brain is wired to choose familiar pain over unfamiliar success.
6. You don’t need permission to protect a life you are responsible for.
7. We share stories because it will either change the way you see your life; or remind you that you’re not alone.

We are very fortunate to welcome our second baby boy into the world. As a result, the show will take a short break in September. Rest assured, new episodes will resume in October. There are already some really exciting guests lined up in the coming months. In the meantime, you’ve got 100 episodes to choose from to keep you busy. 😁

Thanks again for following the show, it means a lot!

When someone you love dies, it doesn’t just feel like loss. It feels like your whole past, future, and identity collapse at once. Melinda Ferguson puts it so clearly. Intimate grief doesn’t just break your heart, it changes your place in the world.

Your memories shift because the person you shared them with is gone.

Your future changes because the life you imagined no longer exists.

Your identity changes because who you were to them also has to change.

That’s why grief can feel like dying more than once.If this landed for you, send it to someone who gets it. 🤍

Full episode in bio.

“If you’re an addict and you start the battle to het clean, it is a spiritual battle. You have to reclaim your soul. “

EPISODE 100🥳 Big thanks to Melinda Ferguson for being on the show to talk about all her incredible books including her latest memoir Swift.

Our individual capacity for good and evil is an eternal dual. Throughout history, this archetypal story is represented in every culture and religion across time, as we continually wrestle with this tension.

It’s incredible to listen first hand to how perceptive horses are and how they interact with their human companions.

All this and more in the latest episode with Rachel Venniker 🇿🇦

Racing is mental before it’s physical. If you ever get nervous before a big moment, save this and send it to someone who needs the reminder.

I love this approach:

Ask yourself, “what am I actually scared of?”
Name it- mistake, injury, pressure, all of it
Most of the time, the fear gets smaller once it’s out in the open
That’s the part people skip.Not because they’re weak, because they’re moving too fast to pause and check in with themselves.Maybe the real skill is learning how to get quiet enough to hear what’s actually going on. What’s the fear you usually have to talk yourself through? Episode 99 out now with Rachel Venniker 🇿🇦